A night out with Qian Yi

Yesterday after worked, mommy and Qian Yi spend some ‘mommy & daughter' time together at Queensbay Mall while daddy has away for some function at night.

Nowadays, I love and enjoy to go shopping with QY rather than shopping with hubby… . She is big enough and able to give comment on the things that I choose and wanted to buy. For instance, she will select and take the skirt that is hang on the rack and say to me :” Mommy, u like this one or not?” , "Mommy, this one nice or not?"

Most of the time, u can hear her saying thing like ~ “Mommy, I like this shoe”, “Wauu, so expensive huh!” , “Mommy, don’t tough the thing, auntie will scold u..” , “Mommy, buy ice cream for Qian Yi, Qian Yi want to eat..”, “Mommy, u cannot eat ice cream, later u will cough..” Hahaha, I really enjoy her companionship very much. One of my best friend once said she hope to have a daughter so that one day, both the mommy and daughter can shop all day long at the shopping mall… I guess I have realized and fulfill her dream and also, most of mommy’s dream.

I know I won't have much spare time for her from mid-Aug onwards, thus I appreciate very much every hour, minutes and second that I could spend with this little cutie from now on till then. Have a list plan of activity for her such as visiting the book shop more often than before, playground, some colouring activity and etc....

Good bye to ''chu chu''

QY has bidded goodbye to her 1st best friend (pacifier) a month ago.

Ever since she is born, we have introduced pacifier to this new born naughty baby who likes to cry non-stop at mid-night. Nothing can stop her from crying, except the pacifier can do a good job sooth her down…. Yes, I am totally aware of the ‘side effect'(like teeth not growing nicely and etc) of having a habit of 'eating' a pacifier but do we have a choice? Thereafter, pacifier or we called it çhu chu’ has followed her day and night, night and day from few days old till last month (2 yrs old and 9 mths old).

The whole incident happenned when mommy decided it’s time to ‘destroy’ her pacifier from her life. During the dinner time, she was there with me at the dinner table. I took her pacifier and dipped into the curry and asked her whether she still want to have the chu chu.. She burst into tear immediately when seeing her beloved best pal has chili sauce… I explained to her that the chu chu can no longer be 'éaten' and must throw it away. She shook her head and pledge not to throw it away. I felt so pity for her but still, I acted firm and throw the chu chu into the dustbin in front of her…. She cried and cried very sad…

That night, she slept without her chu chu… She can't even sleep and kept on asking for milk before she can finally fall into deep sleep. Few days later, she can finally survive without the chu chu anymore...

This is a picture of her with her best friend when she was 2 months old.

Her vocab ability

QY can speak both English and Mandarin. Daddy doesn’t know Mandarin, so he feel the importance of chinese and always like QY to learn and talk in Mandarin at young age. He also support the idea of sending her into chinese school when she is 7 years old. As for me, I do feel both language is equally important and it’s never too young to start any language as they tend to absorp and learn fast when they start talking. If possible, I would like her to learn up the Hakka dialect from paternal gong gong and teow Chiew from maternal gong gong. Both hubby and myself can't speak our own dialect, so we imagine how wonderful it will be if QY can learn up this 2 dialert from gong gong..

Back to the topic, QY is a cheecky and talkative kids and sometimes I get so shock and surprise by her level of understanding of certain 'çritical' word, eg :-

Scenario 1
Since few weeks ago, she will tell me : “Mommy I am sad” whenever she get scolded by me or anyone. She even has her sad corner at ah mah’s house. Whenever she get scolded, she will run and sit in front of the fridge, cross both her little hands and head face the floor… When I approached her asking what had happenned, she will show me her saddest face expression and answer me : 'I am sad…'. I don't know how to react but laugh...

Scenario 2
Yesterday QY followed Daddy for a short trip to Taiping. At night, Daddy was telling me that QY has lost her appetite on milk consumption (which is very rare as she is a milk lover) .

Mommy : 'QY, tell mommy why you never drink milk?'
QY : 'Ït’s not my fault.'
Mommy : 'Then, whose fault?'
QY : 'Daddy….'

Mommy and daddy laughhhhh....


Scenario 3
One morning few weeks back, she has bad mood after wake up from her sound sleep. Upon entering my mum’s house, she get angry and frustrated as cannot open the door.

QY : 'I will kill you then only u know.'

I really shocked to hear this sentence, and has thereafter forbidden her daddy to say this word again….

Another Tag ~ SAHM or FTWM?

This is the 2nd tag from Tiffany whether I want to be a SAHM (Stay at Home Mother) or FTWM (Full-Time Working Mother).

As for me, I never think or dream of being a SAHM for now or even the next few years, reason is as simple as below :-

1) In this modern and ever changing environment, I think it’s essential to have a job in our chosen career in life. Anything can happen anytime anywhere to anyone... Anyway, I would think that a woman can be a good mother or even better mother even though she is working.

At the workplace, company has corporate goal and we employee has our own personal goal, written in the so called Annual Performance Plan. One thing in common is both the corporate goal and the personal goal should move to the same direction. Here, same thing in the family life, we can keep both family goal (such as better lifestyle, bigger house, luxury motor vehicle, good and expensive school for our children and etc) and our own goal together (work to have an income for living, job satisfaction/recognition, career goal and a lot more). Just to ensure both of the goals are not conflicting with each other and they are moving towards the same direction.

Ok, so for me, it’s more like to choose whether I want/wish to become a Fixed hour full time working mum or Flexi hour working mum…I am currently a Fixed hour working mum from Mon till Friday, 9am to 6pm, and I hope or targetted to become a Flexi hour working mum by another few years time down the road or whenever the time is right. Being a Flexi hour working mum, not only I can still work and earn and thus financially independent, I can also spend more time with my family / child. Always be there for them as and when they need me. Sound wonderful and perfect?

Tag ~ How did he/she piss you off?

This is actually a long overdue tag, tagged by a friend of mine ~ Pei Sze . But I don’t think it’s ethical way to write on the topic behind his back. Heehee… and I think this should not be the right channel or place for me to elaborate further on topic like this which only involve 2 of us in life. Of course, there are time he piss me off or I piss him off and we normally talk this out face to face and both of us know that deep in the heart but still, I just can’t convinced myself to put these into word and posted here. Sorry ya, Pei Sze, I decided to drop this tag.

Anyway, I would like to share and talk about the way we get along with each other since the day we knew each other 12 years ago. Hmm… talking about marriage life, I know some people really sacrified a lot for the sake of maintaining a good happy marriage life. I do agree that when 2 person married, they are completing each other and has thus become 1. But at the same time, we also cannot deny the fact that we are still the 2 unique human that have 2 brain, 2 body and etc physically. That is why there are ups and down along the long journey of love life.

For our case, combining into 1 simply means we put ‘Family’ as our top concern/priority when comes to making any big and new decision which may impacted 3 of us. Other than these, we support or rather, do not stop/interfere the other party from enjoying the way we like to live / pursuing our goal in life / hobby or interest and etc. We never thought of try to change the lifestyle that we used to have (before married) and enjoy.

In short, key words for us in getting along well with each other as husband and wife are communicating, listening, respect and understand each other. Don’t ever try to control or take charge on the other party life. There are couple towards ”King-controlled family” or “Queen-controlled family”.. Some people may like this idea but sorry, it is definitely not ME.

Choose the one you love and also, love the one you choose.